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Unfortunately, there are a lot of people who believe this stereotype, and I’ve been on more dates than I can count where I’ve ended the night almost as soon as it’s started because my companion thought buying me dinner and being affectionate meant they were entitled to something afterwards.

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I’m bad at everything from the awkward conversations with people I don’t know, to mingling uncomfortably with strangers at parties.

It’s not that I’m an introvert or anti-social (alright, fine, I’m anti-social), it’s just that over the years I’ve found that dating, as a plus-sized woman, is more of an exercise in patience and frustration than it is one in romance.

I’ve dated classmates, colleagues, friends of friends, total strangers, and poorly matched people from e Harmony.

I start each date with a positive attitude and a hopeful outlook, but the more I date, the more disappointed I become.

Being attracted to plus-sized individuals is great (there's even a strip club for BBWs in Vegas), but only valuing them for their weight and not for who they are is a big problem.

It’s not being body positive and it’s not forward thinking — rather, it’s dehumanizing and not OK.

My friend’s mom simply answered, “because they put out and you don’t.” It bothered me then and it’s continued to bother me since.

This idea that plus-sized individuals are only in relationships because they’re more open to having sex is completely wrong and beyond offensive.

There seems to be this idea in North American culture that if you’re plus-size then it’s impossible for you to have standards.

The (faulty) logic is that if you really had them, then you wouldn’t be overweight in the first place because your standards for your own body would be different.

Not only do I have to face the regular hurdles of dating (like what to wear, where to go, and whether or not to have sex on the first date), I'm also forced to navigate some unique challenges reserved for plus-sized individuals.

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