Benefits of dating an older woman

I’ve written a couple of posts on my blog about surviving a long distance relationship and the comment section of those posts are filled with men and women who are desperate to “win back” their significant other who has been slowly drifting away. One of the first (and most important) things I learned about long distance relationships is that it does not work if both people are not equally committed.

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Heck, you don’t even have to think they are “the one.” But they need to be a contester for “the one.” Your five-year plan does not have to center around them…

but if they don’t pop up in your 1 year, 5 year, or 10 year plan, what is the point of doing the distance? If the love of your life moves halfway across the world, that is not cause to break up just yet.

But when we live together like most “normal” couples, we only vaguely listen to what the other person says in between Netflix episodes, our weekly jog, and arguing over whose turn it is to take out the garbage (it is always his turn). Once upon a time, boy met girl, they fell in love, and lived happily ever after in the same house for the next three generations. Or, if not mainstream, at least more socially widespread.

Every time I tell someone that doing the whole “long distance relationship” thing actually strengthened my relationship, they laugh. And more than anything else, these long distance relationships are becoming a viable alternative to breaking up.

To be fair, I’m not exactly sure how one measures the amount of emotions their partner shares, but Cornell is a pretty legit University – so I have to believe they know what they are talking about.

(Once again, I am quoting from a Huffington Post article, here) The takeaway: Cornell thinks that heterosexual couples in long distance relationships are emotionally closer than couples who live in the same city. As soon as you start to pull back, it becomes painfully obvious that your heart is no longer in it.

After all, don’t rock the boat if everything is going smoothing. Sure, it wasn’t fun to sleep alone, (and face it, being in a long distance relationship can be grueling, lonely, and frustrating) but man… The university told 63 heterosexual couples, half of which were a long distance relationship, to keep a communication diary and spend the next couple weeks completing questionnaires about their relationships.

The distance between the couples varied between 40 and 4,000 miles.

If he wasn’t committed, he wouldn’t skip that party with his friends to Skype with me after a long day at work.

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