Dating bad teeth
If you enjoy yourself here and can spare a few $, I appreciate them and put them to good use.
As a straight white woman, I get more messages from suitors than others might.
I personally privilege men who have a strong command of language, spelling, and grammar, which means I may be passing on some great people who suffer from dyslexia or who didn’t have the same educational opportunities I did.
The readers and commenters contribute so much to the community here.
I didn’t know back when I started this thing that I was, you know, starting A Thing, with Jedi Hugs and FEELINGSBOMBS and African Violets.
What about kissing, is that not important in an intimate relationship?
Is this a deal-breaker to most people, or is it mostly just my lack of self-confidence that’s an issue?Dear Embarrassed: I did say all that stuff, so, sorry: Your teeth might be a dealbreaker for me in feeling attracted to you.But in faux-comforting news, the dealbreaker might be something else entirely! They will not be attracted to me because how I look.Anyone who tells you differently is selling something. It is *the* way to get us to lie down in Procrustes’s magic bed of our own free will. You get to reject people (and they get to reject you) as dating partners for any reason at any time. Which also means people get to make snap judgments about you and decide, “and there is no way you can “deserve” attention or affection from a specific person. I’m asthmatic, and even the residue/smell on clothes triggers my wheezing. Your profile lists 10,000 supercool books, bands, and movies and all of it was made by white men? You live in a place not reachable by public transit? But 1,000s of guys are looking at my profile and thinking, “” to call me names and remind me that I shouldn’t get to be picky or “judgmental” about men when I am such a fatty-fat-fatty (manatee, cow, pig, whale, she-beast, etc.) They feel “tricked” into “wasting time” looking at my profile.That’s why I advocate for asking people out sooner rather than later and without a sense of entitlement or getting too invested. We are works in progress, so maybe a year from now you’ll be an ex-smoker and I totally missed my shot with a great guy. (Update as of 10/2012: Currently dating a considerate smoker who never smokes around me. ) Want to tell me about how you love Ron Paul or your favorite book is ? What they don’t understand…I mean, one of the many, many, MANY things they don’t understand…is that I think that they get to be picky, and that I also get to be picky.No matter how cool I am, no matter how much fun they might have talking to me, no matter how much I might check off every single item on their dream girl checklist, it’s a nonstarter.Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating