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I repeatedly tell my clients that the first 3 months of dating a man are critical.
Learn the 6 Steps to Attracting Your Soulmate in my free guide [click here to download] Critical, because this is the time period during which rapid attraction building is taking place and where the man is essentially making up his mind about you and if he wants a future with you.
Believe it or not but in these first 12 weeks of knowing a man, the fundamentals of the relationship are decided.
But after that comment I found myself wondering WTH I was doing in an exclusive relationship with someone I KNEW I did not want to marry or even live with and see how it goes.
I guess we were more like FWBs but there was no such term back then.
It’s a bit like the first trimester of pregnancy – the most crucial time in the formation of a baby in the mother’s womb.
It is during the first 12 weeks that all the major organs like the heart, liver and kidneys develop and where the risk of miscarriage or something going wrong with the pregnancy is the highest.
or how they treat waiters/waitresses."There's a 6 month rule? Sure do wish there was a "science" to summing up people sure would be a lot safer.
But probably not as exciting [email protected] the rules! I've only had 2 relationships, and not much dating.over 6 months. And the other lasted 5 years(3 of those "married").
this is just a curiosity question, i am not having any problems of my own, just want your thoughts.i think there`s a period of time of "getting to know" each other and seeing the other person`s "true colors" if you can make it thru that your most likely good to go.
i see that "getting to know" period being about 3 to 6 months in my experience. Seriously, I don't believe in all these rules of thumb that people throw out there.
My recommendation would not to get hung up about other peoples' hangups, rules, well-meant advice, etc. it's like watching a toddler trying to force that square peg into that round hole and beating it and throwing a fit and it still doesn't work..try to reason with them and they say no.... These rules of thumb are not so applicable as are your social abilities and perceptions.
I don't think relationships end or terminate based on time. And...you could come in on Saturday..and Sunday too...would be greeeaaate. I find myself wondering "If this is going to move forward, I need to see some action/commitment or I'm out of here". The whole '6 month' thing MAY just be true for me - or it's just that I know what I want, I'm getting older and I feel the time marching on, and I want to get the show on the road. If we hit 7, and nothing has happened (the 'M' word has been 'mentioned'...) - then I may just havta 'get gone'. if you date without expectations and you see you are getting along and things just feel natural I would say six months would tell you if there were things you couldn't deal with... forcing the relationship to fit, no matter how many times you've argued.... In my case i have to be careful because i WANT to believe people are good and have been taken advantage of with that.
It's basically if both parties are getting what they want. BUT, I dont think you truely know someone for 1yr 1/2. I know this sounds weird, but I have to see my man mad before I feel comfortable with him.... i think the true validity in the OP's question lies in the fact that many people handle the beginning of a relationship differently with regards to how much time they spend together at first-is it just "dates" or is it living together for instance, IMO would have to agree with the six-months rule of thumb, generally. Love him dearly, but I want to find someone to spend every night with - happily - under the same roof. when you set your hat on someone and no matter what you have to make this rule fit this relationship because to hell and high water you've got to have that person.... I think the best way to see a person is to see them relate to their family and watch how the family treats other family members.Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating