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Gail Saltz, a New York City psychiatrist and frequent TODAY contributor.

This new study, and others before it, have shown that long distance partners tend to idealize each other, or see them in unrealistically positive terms.

“If you don’t put in a good amount of effort, you just stop talking to each other.”Kendrot agrees.

(She was able to work things out with her job so she can work remotely.) “It’s not the hardest thing in the world, but it’s definitely not an easy situation.”The study also found that people in long-distance relationships reported being more open with their partners, and that their partners were in return more open with them, something that sounds right to Ally Cuneo, 20, whose husband, Michael, 21, was deployed in May.

“You have to have more trust in each other with distance,” says Cuneo, who lives in Kailua, Hawaii.

Long-distance relationships are, in many ways, stronger than relationships between couples who live together or close by, shows a new study published today in the Journal of Communication.

“While the public and the science community hold a pessimistic view towards long distance (LD), this research provides compelling support for the opposite side – long distance is not necessarily inferior to geographically close dating,” says Crystal Jiang, an assistant professor of communication at City University of Hong Kong.

About 80 percent of the couples considered their relationship committed or serious, and the average length of their relationships was 22 months.

On average, the long-distance couples had been separated for about 17 months.

She and her husband, who's a Marine, have been married for nearly two years, during which he’s been deployed twice. There’s nothing we hide, there are no secrets," she says.

But the reason you see your faraway lady- or gentleman-lover in such a rosy light may be precisely he or she is far away, points out Dr.

“You always hear people say ‘long-distance relationships suck’ or ‘long-distance relationships never work out,’” Jiang says.

“Indeed, our culture, particularly American culture, emphasizes being together physically and frequent face-to-face contact for close relationships, but long-distance relationships clearly stand against all these values.”It’s especially reassuring to hear this now, as so many couples today are living apart.

Long distance relationships never work, the colloquial wisdom goes.

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