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This blog curates the voices of the Division of Psychoanalysis (39) of the American Psychological Association.Mitchell Milch, LCSW, submits this post: For many single parents, casual dating can be frustrating and annoying.

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We don’t know someone intimately until we get a flavor of the ghosts of seasons past we will be dealing with from time to time.

I say this no matter how great is the chemistry and/or level of comfort between the two of you.

They either convince themselves they are better off not going beyond getting their feet wet (at best) or they deny and minimize their fears, which can lead to making reckless plunges. Well, the chronically painful realities of divorce that involve children may be likened to having a chronic and debilitating illness like arthritis.

Instead of periodic flare ups of painful inflammation of muscles and joints we are left dealing with periodic flare ups of our children’s painful struggles to come to terms with our divorces, flare ups of our own painful struggles to come to terms with divorce and episodic painful dealings with our divorced spouses.

If we level with ourselves we don’t want to get involved with partners who in their repeating of history engage in abusive and neglectful dynamics even if they are darlings the rest of the time.

Unless of course, they own these issues as their problems and are actively working them through.

Have you endured all the discouragement you can take in one paragraph?

Good, now I can resurrect your hopes for a happier outcome the second time around with my dating tips for single parents.

3) To whatever degree is possible, keep your dating out of sight of your children.

They don’t need to become anxious over what will happen to them should you remarry when you are dating casually.

The thematic threat that holds my recommendations together is the adage: “finding a suitable partner is about racing in slow motion.” Like a well schooled marathoner runner, we are less likely to drop out of the race by virtue of hitting an impenetrable wall of disappointment, frustration and discouragement if we hold back, hold back, and hold back some more despite impulses to fall in infatuation in the early stages of a relationship.

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